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Ch 3 Building strong families

Ch 3 Building strong
Everyone needs food, clothing, and shelter.
-It is the family’s responsibility to meet these needs.
-Strong families also meet the emotional, intellectual
and social needs too.
-The family should be the child’s first teacher; they
should love one another,
as well as show how to take turns, share, and work
toward common goals.
-By living with others in the family, children are
prepared to live with others in society.
StructureNuclear family- includes a mother and father and at least one child. There are two
parents to help raise the children
Single-parent families: includes either a mother or a father and at least one child.
The absent parent might have died or left after a divorce
Custodial parent: is the one in which the child resides, a necessary break from the
challenges of single parenthood
Blended families: is formed when a single parent marries another person, who may
or may not have children. This new parent becomes the child step parent
Extended families: includes a parent or parents, at least one child, and relatives other
than a parent or child who live with them.
Legal guardian: is a person who is designated by a legal process to assume
responsibility for raising a child
Adoption is a legal process in which a child may enter a family they weren’t born
into, they have the same legal rights as biological children
Family life cycles:
Beginning stage: a couple works to establish a home and their marriage relationship
Stage 1: expanding stage: prepares and adjusts to parenthood
stage 2: developing stage: as children grow, parents work to meet childrens
challenging needs to help them develop independence
Stage 3: launching stage: children gradually leave home to support themselves
Middle age: a couple renews their relationship and prepares for retirement.
Retirement: the couple stops full time work and adjusts to having more free time
Trends affecting families:
Families being spread out all over and try to maintain strong ties
Aging population:
People living longer, advances in medicine; thus people are not only caring for their
children but also their parents
Intergenerational: relationships between older and younger age groups
Economic changes
Primary concern as to why both parents are employed. Major impact because families
are smaller then they used to be and having children later in life
Workplace changes
People getting laid off and finding new careers; and a higher number people who work
out of their homes
Makes life easier and more complicated. The more technology the higher effects of
people being more isolated from one another
Sources of Family SupportWith all the stresses and demands anymore in life, it is important that
family members be there for each other. If they are not, or if the
problem is serious it is important to seek professional help
Building a Strong FamilyFamilies are not just a group of individuals who happen to be related, they
are a group where all members should feel accepted and safe. As families
spend more time together they form stronger bonds and traditions, which
are all very important
Traditions provide a sense of continuity, understanding, and appreciation
that brings a family together. There are 3 types of traditions:
1.Celebration Traditions- events that are centered on special occasions such as
birthdays and holidays.
2.Family Traditions- events and special activities created to fit a
family’s lifestyle such as vacations or family reunions
3. Patterned Family Interactions- actions centered on daily routines in life such as
dinnertime and bedtime
Shared values: beliefs that are held by an individual, family , community or society.
Acceptable behavior in respect to honesty, respect, responsibility, friendliness,
kindness, and tolerance.
Things that help shape values include:
Religious affiliations if there are any
Handling family conflict:
Understand each others view points
Learn to resolve differences
Understand each others feelings
Tips to handle them effectively:
Keep cool
Be an active listener
Use positive body language
Chapter 3.2
Effective parenting skills
Meeting childrens needs
Physical needs:
Food, clothing and shelter
Emotional and social needs:
Feel safe, loved and cared for
Intellectual needs:
Minds are stimulated and given the opportunity to learn
When parents don’t or cant meet their childs basic needs it can lead to deprivation
which is the lack of critical needs and an encouraging environment
Physical needs
Under law parents must fulfill a child's needs
Parents are also responsible for their child's health and safety
They are responsible to make sure that:
They are in a car seat suited for their age
Eliminating hazards in the home
Know where their children are at all times
Emotional and social needs
Parents must Nurture their children so they become:
Socially ready
Emotionally read and independent
Remove barriers
Show love and support
Communicating and giving them time and attention
A parent can show to much love and support that can prevent the child from learning
how to deal with the ups and downs of life
Intellectual needs:
Children begin learning at birth
They learn from: touching, tasting, and playing with objects around them
Parents can nurture early learning through:
Playing with their children
Filling their environment with interesting sounds, smells, sights and things to touch
Parents need to continue to provide opportunities for play and learning such as
playing ball, borrowing books from the library
Parenting styles:
Parenting style: How parents and other caregivers care for and discipline children
Authoritarian: believes children should obey their parents without question
Assertive-democratic: children have more input into the rules and limits of the home.
They learn to take responsibility
Permissive: parents give children a wide range of freedom. Children set their own
rules and are encouraged to think for themselves.
Guiding childrens behavior
Can be the hardest yet the most rewarding task of parenting
Guidance means to use firmness and understanding to help children learn how to behave
Self discipline: the ability to control their own behavior
It promotes security and positive self esteem and it helps children learn the difference between right
and wrong
Children develop a conscience, or an inner sense of what is right
Three basic ways to successfully guide children:
Being a role model
Setting limits
Positive reinforcement- a response that encourages a particular behavior
Be specific
Clearly comment on the behavior
Comment on the behavior as soon as possible
Recognize the behavior right away
Recognize small steps
Encourage steps in the right direction
Help children take pride in their actions
Praising them for doing something for themselves
Tailor the encouragement to the needs of children
Praise behaviors that are hard for children
Use positive reinforcement wisely
Do not praise all the time, it will no longer motivate them
Dealing with inappropriate behavior
Deal with the behavior quickly and appropriately
The childs age should determine the response to the inappropriate behavior
1) is it expected behavior appropriate
2) does the child understand the behavior was wrong
3) did the child do the behavior knowingly and deliberately
Unintentional misbehavior
If the child had no way of knowing it was wrong
Do not scold but explain why they shouldn’t have done something
Using punishment effectively:
punishment used thoughtfully and with good judgment can be effective
Reminds children that appropriate behavior is important and teach them that there
are consequences
Negative Reinforcement: a response aimed at discourage children from repeating an
inappropriate or unacceptable behavior
Natural consequences: when children suffer from the actual result of their actions
Logical consequence: discipline the child that has a connection to the misbehavior:
coloring on the table =taking the crayons away
Loss of privileges: most effective for children ages 5 and over, make sure the privilege
taken away is related to the misbehavior
Time-out: a short period of time in which a child sits away from other people and the
center of activity. The purpose is so the child a chance to calm down and regain self
control. One minute of time per year of age.
Poor disciplinary measures
Bribing: children don’t learn self-control, they learn to expect rewards for ending
inappropriate behavior. Therefore they will misbehave so they can get a reward
Making children promise to behave: children may feel forced to lie about misbehavior
rather than disappointing someone they love
Shouting or yelling: can frighten young children, those that yell aren’t modeling
acceptable behavior
Shaming or belittling: shouldn’t ridicule children’s mistakes or make comments
Threatening to withhold love: creates a fear of being rejected or abandoned
Exaggerating the consequence: to threaten wildly impractical consequences. This can
cause a parent to lose credibility.
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